Heartbreaking Decisions

So what now, you might ask? Well the preliminary amnio results were due back 3 days after the test. The lab would do a FISH test. FISH stands for fluorescent in situ hybridization. FISH testing is a relatively new cytogenetic technique that allows a cytogeneticist to determine how many copies of a particular chromosome are present without having to go through all of the steps involved in producing a karyotype. For example, FISH analysis can quickly tell you how many number 13 chromosomes are present, but it cannot tell you anything about the structure of those chromosomes. In our case that is what we needed to know. Was there an excess of the 13^th chromosome in the baby’s DNA. The final results which would be the full karyotype of the chromosome including the structure would not be available for at least 7 -10 days as the cells had to be left to grow.

In the meantime we discussed our options and made our plan A., plan B., etc. Now this is where our story gets to the point of major decision that no one should ever have to go through. Do you carry the baby to full term and hope it can live for a few days, weeks, or months? Or do you terminate the pregnancy to save the baby from suffering if it does make it to full term?

 I think my husband and I made this decision on what we would do depending on the results we were given after the testing the first night after learning about the possibility of the trisomy 13. We had gone into the original screening test saying we wanted to know if there were any problems ahead of time so we could plan accordingly. We bot are engineers who are very scientific and know that advanced in modern medicine have been huge. We determined we would be part of the population that utilizes the advanced testing regardless whether we were “at risk” for anything or not. I t was covered by insurance it was a “no brainer” to us. Never did we imagine we would be one of those couples that were given heartbreaking information that would make us choose.  

We knew that carrying a trisomy 13 baby to full term was already not likely. We knew even more that bringing a trisomy 13 baby into the world was not going to be much of a life for the baby. We didn’t want to bring our child into this world just to suffer. We wanted this baby so badly and we had gone through a lot to even get to this point. But we knew we had to follow our heart if we did receive the some of the worst news that any parent could possibly receive.